Celebrate Your Differences!
Thanks to everyone who commented on my last post.
I don’t want to get into a major discussion about the differences between men and women when it comes marketing and business, or differences in general, but I can see that it is a topic many of you have deliberated over and given some thought to.
While I accept that there are some differences that are probably universal, I also think there is so much that influences who we are as individuals – both nature and nurture – that we can’t categorize people simply by sex. Women who thrive in business do not necessarily take on traditionally male traits. I know women who are girly girls and I know women who are what we might have called tomboys when we were younger. I always considered myself a tomboy but one of my friends says I’m quite girly next to her. Similarly I have many male friends (and relate better to men in general) who run the gamut from having very soft feminine sides to being full-on butch guys showing off their pecks and talking cars and stuff!
For myself, I don’t understand when some of my female friends talk about their biological clocks ticking away and the overwhelming urge to have children. It just hasn’t happened to me. I love children but don’t have this hormone rush that tells me I must have my own. Too much testosterone in the womb? (this is the latest theory as to why some women prefer techie subjects more than others) Conversely, my sister always wanted to be a stay at home mum and didn’t understand my drive for career satisfaction. Same mum, same upbringing, two very different people
We’re all different. And that’s what I love about people – their individualism. So, while many women share similar characteristics, it is their differences that make them unique.
As watzzupsport said “it takes all types to make up this world.” Wouldn’t it be dull if we were all the same? Don’t feel you have to compromise yourself in order to fit in to a stereotype.
So, relating this to your search for a mentor or masterminding group, it is important to find others you can communicate well with, respect, feel comfortable around, and find common ground with. For most women that will be other women and for most men that will be other men, but it doesn’t have to be.
I wish you all well in your search and remember to celebrate your differences!
Lisa
























May 28th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Lisa, thank you for your helpful advice. You are so right that this world would be dull if we were all the same.
I’ve been trying to figure out what niche I want my new website and blog to be in. The one that I really want to do is not what some might consider, “a woman’s territory”. But after reading your last post, I’ve decided to say the hell with it, ignore the box the “good ‘ol boys network” wants to put me in – and go for it.
Sharon Bray-McPherson
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May 28th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
Great post Lisa. It all comes down to individuality in the end. I spent the first half of my life trying to be like everyone else, then suddenly realised it was just simply more fun to be me.
People spend far too much time trying to be like everyone else, so much so that they really start losing sight of who they are.
Reminds me of a classic line from Life Of Brian. When Brian has run home and has the crowd outside his window and tells them all “You’re all individuals, you’re all different!” And that lone, single voice in the horde of people quietly says, “I’m not.” Brilliant, and illustrates the point perfectly.
Cheers,
Nez
May 28th, 2008 at 10:18 pm
Ah Lisa, so so true!
I created the analogy that we are like Diamonds.
No two diamonds are alike. Every diamond is multi-faceted. Diamonds continue to be attractive to others even with their flaws. And when you move away any of the crap that surrounds them – they shine brightly and captivate.
Caro
May 29th, 2008 at 3:19 am
Nez, you are so right my friend. Trying to be someone else takes to much time and effort. Being ourselves should be the natural way of life, but in the end, we all wear masks to survive daily.
When you think of it, John Reese was right. I once heard him say that most of the world’s problems exist because of one thing : insecurity. No one wants to get hurt.
Lisa, great post! I am different and I’m glad that I am!
Thx!
TechDogg